1. Pay Attention to My Body-Am I hungry? In pain? Uncomfortable? Check and see if those are the real things irritating me first before attacking my ex and blaming it on him.
2.Don't drink to much.
3.Acknowledge the Reality of Other People's Feelings-Instead of snapping back answers like,"I don't Want to Hear Your Whining," or "You're a Liar," I should try to understand what someone is saying and the circumstances. Think and Listen Before I Speak.
4.Be Realistic-I shouldn't get irritated when I'm interrupted or when things don't go the way I think they should. Of course things don't always go as planned.
5.Don't expect Praise or Appreciation-I feel irritated when I do something and no one tells me they appreciated it. I should do things for me.
6. Squelch My Reactions-Not expressing my anger right away will allow it to dissipate and I can discuss it in a reasonable manner. I have a lot of trouble with this.
7.I need to learn to take a joke and joke back in a non-aggressive way.
8. Try Not To Be Defensive- Most of my actions are caused by some kind of accusation that I did something rude, out of place or uncalled for. If I can admit I am at fault or let it go then my anger will dissipate. Most of the time my anger is tied to pride and my perfectionism. I want to control things and have them unfold as I wish and I want people to behave as I want them to. Thats not how the world works.
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
No comments:
Post a Comment